or the lack thereof.
What is it about family building efforts or the raising of the little 2 legged creatures that result from it that seems to remove the social inhibitions of friends and strangers alike? I am sure each and every one of you has either been the victim of the prying comments or actions or has inadvertently committed one of these social faux pas yourself. I know I've been on both sides of the fence.
It all starts when you reach either the age or the situation which society equates with becoming a parent. It is never ever ok to ask a pubescent child, "So, got any hair down there yet?" But, the same people who would be horrified at that question think nothing of asking a newly married couple whether or not they are pregnant yet or asking a single woman in her 30s whether or not she's going to have kids.
Friends, family, and strangers seem to think nothing of reaching out and rubbing a pregnant woman's belly but those same people wouldn't be caught dead attempting to touch any other physical deformity on a person that catches their eye. Yes, a hugely pregnant tummy is not the norm and catches a persons eye. Yes, unlike other physical deformities, a pregnant tummy is seen as a miraculous and beautiful thing. But come on, since when does something catching your eye become the equivalent to wearing a large touch me sign?
I know I've been guilty of asking someone I barely know "Is he your only child?" but I would never ask the same person "So, is that your only parent?" if I saw them out and about with an elderly parent. Both questions have the potential to evoke either joy or pain. Why is one question ok and the other isn't?
I know there are tons more examples of peoples fall from social grace when dealing with all topics family building and child rearing. What are some that you've heard and why do you think people think they have a free pass in this area?