and I'm just not sure whether I'm ready to go there. I am honestly afraid of the reaction some of you might have and I'm not sure I could handle it. It deals with a controversial event in my past and I know its a topic that brings out strong feelings in everyone. So, I know I"m being very cryptic, but do you think I should throw caution into the wind and write the post or do you think I should continue to hold it close to me?
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I am curious, but I can understand holding it close to you (Even not knowing what it is.) We all keep a part of us secret from even our closest friends, and some things in our pasts never get talked about. I can understand not writing about it, but I can also understand bearing your soul.
Of course, it is a most unfortunate truth that people don't always come with open minds. And the fear of controversy and hateful comments is a possibility, but then again... people can, and will, disagree about absolutely anything. Sometimes you can do your damnedest to preserve yourself and avoid conflict, but it all falls to rot anyway.
So what I'm really saying here is this: I have no advice, but I support you in whatever decision it is you make; and I will not judge you for whatever happened in your past.
What she said. ;-) But seriously, come to peace with whatever decision you make and go with that. You know I'm here for you either way. :-*
It's so hard to tell you what to do. I can understand wanting to share and get whatever you are holding out in the open, and I can also appreciate trying to protect your readers from it. Here's the thing - obviously you have extremely strong feelings about this or you wouldn't have brought it up, right? I can tell you have been thinking about sharing it for quite some time. I can tell you on my end, I won't judge you or think negatively of you. So just know that you have supporters out here, no matter what :)
Another dreamer said it very well.
It's possible that I may know what it is, since we are very close (of course i could be totally wrong) --- if it's what I Think it is, I can completely understand what sort of reaction you may receive. HOWEVER, I also know that you are open minded and accepting and strong and you'll read each and every comment with understanding from the commenters point of view. If it's what I think, it certainly *is* a difficult choice, but only you can make the right choice whether you want it off your shoulders or not. Let me know if I can support you either way.
If you feel you need to share it to make peace with it, then I say do it. Your feelings are the only ones that matter in the end, and if it is going to eat you up inside, then let it out.
If you can go without sharing it and fear the outcome of sharing, then don't.
No one can truly understand the decisions we make unless they are living the same life. KWIM?
I think the people that read your blog, love you and wouldn't judge you. If your concerned about it, you could put comment moderation on, maybe? I always take the stand: "I may not agree with you or your choice, but that doesn't mean I'll judge you or not stand behind you to support you". I'll always be here to love and support you no matter what! Just as you would do the same for me.
*HUGS*
I say you should do it if you are open to what your readers might say. If you think your feeling might be hurt too easily then maybe you should email to a few people you trust to get it off your chest. Works for me!
I think you should write it and then decide whether or not you need to post it. I think your heart usually guides you well with these matters.
I think Mel had some good advice. Sometimes just writing things out can give us the clarity that we need. As someone who blogs anonymously, I would find it all too easy to say, "Bare it all!" but I know it is not the same when you are more exposed and out there.
Speaking only for myself, there is nothing you could say that would make me think less of you. Your integrity shines through.
Obviously I don't know you and you don't know me. BUT aside from everyone's natural curiosity I think that the purpose of this medium is to help us deal with the issues in our life. To talk, bare our souls to strangers, like-minded strangers, but strangers nonetheless. But the benifit of this soul baring is the possibility of insight that only a disinterested third party can give. and then you obviously have the fact that no matter what the simple act of putting your thoughts out there and out of your brain, that very act is very cathartic.
It's up to you, but know we will be here for you no matter what.
*ICLW*
I like Dani's idea---
The majority of your readers are here to provide support whether or not they agree with your personal decisions.
This is YOUR blog and outlet...if you need to vent, VENT.
And as Mel said, perhaps by just writing, you'll feel better even if you don't publish. :)
my advice? shit or get off the pot. You know you rock it hard core, and there's nothing you could EVER say that would make me start thinking you were lame :)
ROFL Bean! Too funny!
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